Author Darlene Lancer

 Conquer Codependency, Conquer Shame, Guilt

 on with Your True Self, August 23, 2014 Author Darlene Lancer

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Conquer Codependency, Conquer Shame, Get on with Your True Self, August 23, 2014
Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You (Paperback)
Things you will learn reading Darlene’s book:
1. The shame experience
2. Shame and Identity
3. Escaping Shame
4. Emptiness
5. Shame and Symptoms of codependency
6. Love’s Silent Killer
7. Sexual Shame
8. 8 Steps to Free Your true self
The Introduction is a true account of how the author attended an Al-Alnon program in 1979, and she did not trust or value herself or even know who she was “outside the roles she played each day.” I think this is an experience most women encounter and we need to get off the treadmill of people pleasing and get back in touch with our feelings and stop people pleasing. Yes, steps to get over codependency.
I loved the chart on page 124:
Codependent relationships:
* Intense attraction
* Idealize each other and ignore difference
* Fall in love and make commitments
* Get to know each other
* Become disappointed
* Cling to romantic fantasy of love
* Try to change partner into ideas
* Feel resentful and unloved
That did it for me, because then you learn how to become whole and have healthy relationships. The information in this book was beyond my expectations, and I learned more about shame and how it can stem from childhood onto adulthood. This is my top ten list of favorites for 2014. © 2014 Jackie Paulson

More About the Author
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Darlene Lancer
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT is a marriage and family therapist, specializing in relationships and codependency. In her private clinical practice, she has treated individuals and couples for over 27 years. She’s a sought after speaker at national conferences, in media, and to professional groups and institutions.

Before becoming a psychotherapist, Ms. Lancer was a successful entertainment lawyer. She also was a Senior Mediator for the Los Angeles Conciliation Court, where she helped families resolve custody and visitation disputes and domestic violence problems.

Her articles have been published widely in professional and popular periodicals. See her Kindle ebooks, “10 Steps to Self-Esteem – The Ultimate Guide to Stop Self-Criticism,” “Spiritual Transformation in the Twelve Steps,” “Codependency Recovery Daily Reflections,” and “How to Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits.”

Blogs and more information about her seminars and coaching packages are available on her websites, and, where you can get a free report, “14 Tips for Letting Go” You can follow Darlene on Facebook at and Twitter @darlenelancer. Find her also on

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My name is Jackie Paulson, I live in USA, ILLINOIS. I have lived here my entire life. I am a book buying and kindle buying book addict. This is my favorite hobby. Currently I am cutting hair for a franchise salon called Great Clips in Libertyville Illinois. I have twenty years of experience and use to own a barber shop. I have a Paralegal Degree and a Technical Business Management Degree. I plan to get my Criminal Justice Degree with forensics and a law degree in the future.